EAZy
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Registered: 04/04/09
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I think we all agree social status is an important thing in university.My problem is I don't give a shit about this.
When school year started I had two friends of high school I was just hanging out with and I was absolutly fine with that.I had other friends outside of school so I was alright.
Now things changed,those 2 friends changed school and my mentality changed since then(not because of those 2 friends but things in my life changed).I have things I'm working on and I don't go to university a lot because I study more at home.(also nothing to do with those friends).
I'm not really into making new friends now,I'm just bussy with my shit now and when I want to do something I have my friends outside of school.
This results in me not knowing people there,well I know some guys but just talk to them when I see them.
But I start to see some people I don't know trying to play 'alpha male' or how do you say that.Well I don't mean bullying,absolutely not but just playing though guys.You know most of these guys are what you would call a nerd,and they are just trying to feel better about themselves I know.
Again nobody said something to me,but I can sense this I don't know why.But for example yesterday 2 guys,I sat next to,I could sense they were hostile by the way they were looking.
Or another guys or should I say some insecure pussy,while we were going to buy some school books,he tries to pass before me.He was with his 5-6friends of course but was extremely uncomfortable when I looked at him straight in the face after he did.
Ok maybe I am paranoid.
Btw I'm probably one of the youngest at school(cuz I'm a year ahead,not because I'm supersmart but because I started school earlier) so most guys are 1-2 or even 3 years older than me.So maybe it is just me getting insecure about my 'body',I don't mean ugly but I mean skinny and looking like a kid.But I'm not sure.
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udontknowme
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Registered: 08/04/08
Posts: 41
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Title: Social status is killing me
"social status is an important thing in university, My problem is I don't give a shit about this."
hmmm... contradiction much?
My friend you are young, you are letting your thoughts run away with you (or whatever the expression is).
Everyone is just reflecting back to you what you reflect back to them
Judge not lest ye be judged
Focus on yourself not everyone else, then you REALLY WONT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT SOCIAL STATUS.
There summed it all up for you.
Growing up is hard. Btw i had a friend like you (not to mention i was like you) but he was a perfect example, he was convinced that everyone was out to get him everyone was shitty/bitchy/rude or hated him, but he told me that id never get into a fight/nobody would pick a fight with me cos i was too cool/calm/collected. He didnt realise that he was projecting to everyone "fuck you i know your judging Me ill fight you if you come near me" and thats what attracted the aggression he felt was aimed at him.
He was aiming the gun at himself and pulling the trigger cos he thought everyone was out to get him. Sheesh
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seanmessenger
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Registered: 10/27/07
Posts: 4,154
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Get INVOLVED at your school. The studying is the least valuable part of your education. You need to use Uni to learn about people.
And here's a little-known secret: if you want to get laid, join the Drama club/take acting classes/act in plays. No joke. NO fucking joke. And it's fun as hell. :-)
But even if that's not your thing, just do whatever you can to get involved. People NEED to be part of tribes, of teams. You are a social animal and you will die alone if you don't change it. So find a group, ANY group where you feel just the least bit comfortable and take part.
And yes, I'm as guilty as anyone of isolating and ignoring my own advice, but at least I track this stuff carefully so I can adjust. And this last month I managed to get my ass into a group here (even in a country where I know no one and don't speak the language and am not in school or working or doing anything, really, I found a group).
So you have no excuse. You can choose to hate them (and so doing, hate yourself), or change it.
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